UgandAshis 73 Infidelity

UgandAshis 73 Infidelity

Kampala, December 23, 2009

Where in the world can you find a bill board with a gentleman of about 45-50 stating the following: “I am a good husband. I do my HIV tests every few months” or another one “Trans generational sex; sugar daddies and mommies should stop; pick your own age!” Birth rates 6.9 children per mom. Over one million people living with HIV/AIDS. Sex tourism is one of the foundations of tourism it seems.

Yesterday a Toyota Pajero four wheel drive got stuck in front of my house.Stuck in the gutter. A young chick with a gentleman of middle age. They had just spent a relaxing evening in Hotel Olympia my across the street neighbors - a lot of people tend to use that vicinity as such. My saved neighbor had come out to preach the lesson that Jesus must have sent to this sinning gentleman.

Sam my boda boda man had just come to pick me up for an evening sheesha and card game in the flaming chicken. So we did our best to aid our fallen knight. As we pushed and pulled it became clear a break-down was required. We hopped on the bike and left to search for a tow vehicle. On the way out he could hear the gentleman woo and croon to his wife that his work meeting was still on and that he would be home as soon as possible.

Plunging in to a discussion between a rastafarian and rastafarini in the restaurant about the death penalty for gay people in Uganda. For a peaceful religion it became clear that ‘anti-natural’ behavior as homosexuality should be punished by death. At least according to him. She seemed much more accepting of different life styles. What always amazes me in this debate is that I hear so many times that homosexuality does not exist in Africa. Well if that is the case why is there a need for this ridiculous new anti-gay legislation?

As I have written about before polygamy is more or less accepted here. If you have the money you are allowed to marry as many girls as you wish. At any age. There is very little influence the churches have on those century old practices. Easy to say that my western-eastern mind frame can judge that. Then again so is my acceptance of homosexuality. It is so easy to presume your judgement is worth more than some one else’s. So where to draw the line. What can you accept? A life being taken because of sexual orientation. Under age marriage of an 80-year old with a 14 year old? That same dinosaur marrying 8 or 10 times not knowing the names of children. Or nowadays the average man having children with multitudes of women not knowing exactly how many?

Clearly I do not know and it seems women, children and gays are losing out so that men can prosper.

Namaskar,

Ashis Brahma